Hypnobirthing

How to Reframe Labor and Birth

The human mind is extremely powerful and can shape your birth experience. We can instill fear in ourselves and feel that there is no way to overcome birth aside from common birth interventions and medical pain relief. On the contrary, we can choose the opposite path of relaxation and bypass the pain by belief and compassion. The key is to remove yourself from the sympathetic nervous system and practice moving your consciousness to the parasympathetic nervous system. We can achieve this goal by practicing relaxing and regulating our bodies with simple breathing techniques. Your experience will be influenced by your mind regardless of the path you take to get there.

Positive Affirmations

Hypnobirthing Tool Kit

Birth and labor is like your own personal marathon, and if you put in the work while you are growing your baby you will reap the benefits during the final count down. I’ve been reading, exercising, meditating, taking birth classes, going to a Webster Certified Chiropractor and also scheduled an appointment with a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist to learn more about breath work and corresponding exercises to help me prepare for labor at a birth center; with no choice for an epidural or other common alternatives to medical pain relief typically found in a hospital setting.

Siobhan Miller, author of Hypnobirthing Practical ways to make your Birth Better, has introduced me to a drug free way to control pain during my upcoming labor and birth marathon. It really is simple, but takes practice to train the mind. Luckily, I came from a meditative background and have learned many breathing techniques throughout my life. I also have practiced self-hypnosis with my partner and learned how to relax and let go of the weight of the world.

Breath Work

Up Breathing – Breathing in deeply through your nose; inhale-2-3-4. Narrow your lips like you have a straw in your mouth and exhale-2-3-4-5-6-7-8. The goal is to spend twice as long on the exhalation as the inhalation, 4 counts in and 8 counts out. This is a simple way to begin practicing, but if you feel out of breath on the exhalation, don’t hold your breath! Simply cycle back and forth and center your focus within (if this is difficult, a good strategy is to visualize your 3rd eye or a ball of light in the center of your forehead). This “up-breathing” technique is to relax the body during “contractions” or you might want to reframe them in your mind and call them “surges” or “waves.” Siobhan recommends practicing this cycle ~ 4-5 reps, which is roughly the length of “active labor” contractions. To deepen the relaxation of this box breathing technique, you can also visualize something going up like a balloon, sunrise, or a bird soaring through the sky.

Down Breathing – Also known as 360 breath. Imagine a ring around your hips as you inhale, this ring expands. When you exhale your pelvis contracts. It may help to visualize blowing out a candle with each exhale. This would typically be the breathing technique when the pushing phase begins. There are no counts involved with down breathing, you want to connect with your body and visualize your breath moving downward through your body with each surge. Therefore, you might find it’s easier to do this part with your eyes closed. To deepen the relaxation of this “down-breathing” technique, you can also visualize something going down like rose petals flowing down a river bed, or your cervix opening up like a rose bud.

Light Touch Massage

Soft Fingers – Close your eyes and have your birthing partner talk to you slowly and just barley touch / stroke your skin. When done correctly it may start to tingle and can sometimes feel like a tickle. Focus your attention on the area they are touching and block out anything else. This is a mindfulness strategy, where you leave your thinking mind and become aware of the soft touch sensation in the present moment.

TENS Machine – Another way to simulate light touch massage is to use a TENS machine. Place the pads on your lower and middle back on either side of your spine. You don’t want to use this during the surges, only in-between surges to deepen your relaxation and connection with your baby. The ability to relax helps us tap into the parasympathetic nervous system, which provides oxytocin (that fuels the surges) and endorphins (the bodies natural pain killer).

Guided Relaxations

Due to the subjective nature of self-hypnosis, no script will be a one size fits all. My partner often gauges my level of relaxation based on my facial expression and body language. He will then continue with repetitions or move on to the next phase based on how relaxed I look and act. It’s recommended to edit, practice and record a variety of scripts and script durations for different purposes and times to use during labor. If your partner can’t take hypnosis seriously or the recordings end up feeling rushed and aren’t helping you relax; record your own voice instead or as well. Sometimes the only voice you will want to listen to is your own voice, this can be particularly helpful during a wobble / the transition phase of labor. I tend to prefer the voice of my partner, as it’s gentle, familiar, and comforting to me.

Allow your eyes to close gently and easily, so you are able to focus on my voice. Feel your body begin to relax.
Tune in now with your breath. Allow it to slow down and deepen. Settle into a rhythm that feels natural for you. Breathe slowly, deeply and comfortably.
As you inhale, feel your lungs gently expand and, as you exhale, imagine that a valve has opened, and you feel all the pressure within you release.
Now, again. Inhale, expand, exhale, release. Feel all the tension flow out and away from your body. Breathe in and breathe out. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release.
Allow everything to soften, relax and release . . . You feel completely comfortable . . . You are totally relaxed . . .
Focus now on your eyelids and allow the muscles to soften. Feel the relaxation spreads upwards and across your forehead. Everything softening and relaxing. Feel the muscles relax so that your forehead is smooth and free of all tension. Allow yourself to sink into this lovely feeling of warmth and comfort as everything becomes soft and relaxed. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathe in and breathe out. Enjoy this feeling of peace, calm and well-being.
Now feel the relaxation spread downwards from your forehead, in and around your eyes and down through your cheeks. Everything softens as the warm feeling gently spreads. Allow your jaw to become loose so that it too is relaxed. Feel the warmth spread on downwards through your neck and across your shoulders. All the muscles soften and release as the relaxation gently spreads downwards through your body. Everything is loose and relaxed.
Notice now your mouth and your lips. Allow them to soften and release. Notice your tongue – it rests completely relaxed in your mouth. Every muscle in your face is soft and free of tension. Your whole face and head feel completely relaxed. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathe in and breathe out. You feel very, very peaceful.
Finally, feel your shoulders relax. Allow them to sink to their natural level, so that your whole body is limp and relaxed, and your breathing is soft and slow. Pause for a moment and enjoy this feeling of calm, warmth and well-being.
You feel happy now, knowing that you can easily access this wonderful feeling of peace, calm and relaxation whenever you need to. You know that your body has been perfectly designed to grow and birth your baby. You feel strong and confident, calm and relaxed. You know that you can feel just as relaxed as you do now when you give birth to your baby, and so you look
forward to meeting your baby feeling calm and full of love. You look forward to the amazing and empowering experience that is giving birth, trusting that you, your body and your baby know exactly what to do.
Now, when you’re ready, and in your own time, slowly open your eyes, gently and calmly, coming back to the present feeling relaxed, confident and ready.

Gently and easily allow your eyes to close so you can focus on my voice and begin to relax.
Allow your breathing to slow down and deepen. As you inhale, feel your lungs expand as they fill with air and as you exhale, feel all the pressure and tension release and flow out of your body. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release.
Breathing in and breathing out. With each breath you become more and more relaxed. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out. You feel peaceful. You feel comfortable. You feel deeply relaxed.
Now place your focus on your feet. Feel the weight of your feet where they rest. As you focus on your feet, imagine all the stress and tension in your body draining out through them, down, down and away, into the ground. You begin to feel lighter. Everything feels more relaxed.
Now imagine that as all the stress and tension leave your body, a wave of relaxation and peace flows down through you. You can feel this wave of warmth and light as it slowly spreads and fills every part of your body. You feel an overwhelming feeling of comfort and well-being as this wave of peace and relaxation, warmth and light, fills every part of you.
You breathe slowly and deeply. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release.
Breathing
in and breathing out. Slower and deeper.
Now that you are relaxed, I will begin to stroke your head very gently.
[Start stroking her head / hair (give her head pats), speaking slowly and calmly.]
You can feel my touch on your head. I am here. You are safe. Allow yourself to sink, deeply relaxed, completely comfortable. As I stroke your head and hair you relax more and more deeply. You can feel my touch. It feels soothing and reassuring. You are completely safe.
Enjoy this feeling. Endorphins spreading throughout your body. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out. You are deeply relaxed. Peaceful and calm. Filled with warmth and light.
Now the feeling in your head and face begins to fade. You know that I am still giving you head pats . . . but all you can feel is warmth and comfort. Maybe you can feel a light tingle from my touch, but as I continue to stroke, the feeling becomes less and less. Your head and face become increasingly numb.
Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Inhale. Exhale. Breathing in and breathing out.
You feel more and more deeply relaxed. You are completely comfortable. Peaceful. Safe. Gradually the feeling in your head and face becomes less and less. Fading away. Until you feel nothing at all.
Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out.
You realise now that you can move this warm, comfortable feeling of numbness wherever you want. Simply focus on a part of your body and the feeling becomes less and less, gradually fades away . . . until there is nothing at all.
Enjoy this sensation that fills your body . . . Warmth and light. Peace and calm.
You are now very, very relaxed. Just pause and enjoy this wonderful feeling of well-being, peace and calm that fills your body.
You know now that you are a strong, powerful and capable woman and are perfectly designed to grow and birth your baby.
You appreciate the power of your intuition, and you trust that it will guide you through your labour and birth.
You know that birth is safe and you are safe.
You understand how important it is to be relaxed when giving birth and you feel confident that you are able to access this deep relaxation when needed.
You understand your mind and body are connected so you prepare mentally for the positive and empowering birth experience you wish for.
You know that the decisions in birth are yours to make and you feel empowered by this fact.
You look forward to meeting your baby and holding them in your arms.
[Stop stroking.]
Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out.
This relaxation has been very powerful. You feel relaxed, calm and peaceful. You now know that you have power to control the sensations in your body.
In a moment it will be time to come back to the present, slowly and gently.
You feel calm, relaxed and confident. And each time you do this, these feelings will grow stronger and stronger. You will become more and more confident and you will be able to access this deep relaxation more quickly than before.
So now, in your own time, come back to the present, slowly and gently opening your eyes, feeling calm, relaxed and confident.

[Gently rest your hand on her bump]
As my hand rests here, allow your eyes to close, gently and easily, so you can focus on my voice. Feel the muscles in your eyelids soften and relax, so that your eyelids feel light and your forehead is soft and smooth.
Tune in now with your breathing. Allow your breath to slow down and deepen. Inhale, feel your lungs expand. Exhale, feel all tension release.
Breathing in and breathing out. Feel all your tension and stress flow out of
your body and away.
Focus now on your eyes – they feel relaxed. Feel your cheeks soften, allow your lips to part and your jaw to rest, loose and relaxed.
Now allow your shoulders to sink to their natural level as you feel the relaxation spread down your neck, across your shoulders and on down through your back. You feel calm, relaxed and peaceful.
Your whole body sinks into the lovely, familiar feeling of warm relaxation.
You are completely comfortable. You know that you are safe.
You relax deeper and deeper. It feels so good to take the time to just allow
everything to soften, release and relax. So comfortable, so easy. Embrace this
wonderful feeling of warmth and well-being.
Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out.
You feel the relaxation slowly spreading throughout your body until every
single cell feels soft and relaxed. You feel so calm and peaceful, happy and
relaxed.
And every time you feel my hand rest here, you will recognise this as a
sign to let go and relax. You know you can access this wonderful feeling any
time you wish.
Tune in again with your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Inhale, expand. Exhale, release. Breathing in and breathing out. So comfortable, so relaxed.
Now I shall lift your arm gently at the wrist. Just relax and let me take all of the weight.
[Raise her arm]
Notice how heavy your arm feels. It feels so good to just relax and allow me to take the weight.
In a moment, I will gently release your arm and it will fall, landing in your lap, and your relaxation will deepen even more. [Let go of arm]
Now, again, I will lift your arm, slowly and gently. Feel the weight of your arm as I raise it. [Raise her arm] You are completely relaxed.
In a moment I will let your arm go again and, as I do, your relaxation will become even deeper and more profound. [Let go of arm] You are now so deeply relaxed.
And again, one last time, I’m lifting your arm. [Raise arm]
You allow me
to take the full weight of your arm. As I let go, your arm falls into your lap and
you go many times deeper. [Let go of arm]
Rest now, comfortable and relaxed. Enjoy the feeling of calm and well-being that radiates throughout your body.
Know that this easy, deep relaxation is there for you when it comes to labor and birth. Know that you can feel just as calm and relaxed then as you do right now.
You know that your body has been perfectly designed to grow and birth your baby naturally, easily and comfortably. You look forward to giving birth to your baby because you know it is going to be the most amazing and empowering experience, and you will meet your baby feeling calm and confident, happy and relaxed.
Now the time has come to return to the present, slowly and gently, allow your eyes to open and return, feeling confident and relaxed about birth, bringing with you all the lovely feelings of calm and contentment you have just created.

Positive Affirmations

Create and print or buy labor and birth affirmation cards and have your birth partner read them to you during your surges (see gallery above for examples).

  • I make decisions that feel right for me and my baby
  • I love and respect my pregnant body
  • Giving birth is the most wonderful and empowering experience
  • I feel calm, relaxed and at ease
  • My body knows how to nourish and grow my baby
  • I trust my body is perfectly designed to birth my baby
  • I will birth my baby comfortably, calmly and confidently
  • Where my mind leads my body follows
  • Relaxing my mind relaxes my muscles
  • The birth of my baby will be beautiful
  • My baby knows when and how to be born
  • My baby will come when my baby is ready
  • My baby is the perfect size for my body
  • As labour progresses I become more deeply relaxed
  • I listen to my body and do what it needs me to do
  • I inhale peace and exhale tension
  • My birth partner is by my side and on my side
  • Every surge brings me closer to meeting my baby
  • My surges cannot be stronger than me because they are me
  • I am a strong and capable woman
  • All the strength I need is within me
  • Birth is a safe and wonderful experience
  • I trust in the instinctive nature of birth
  • My baby will be born gently, calmly and safely
  • My job is simply to relax and allow my body to birth my baby
  • Giving birth is powerful but so am I
  • I look forward to holding my baby in my arms
  • I welcome my baby with love and confidence

Relaxation Triggers

Explore ways that you already use to relax or become entranced. Siobhan’s guided relaxations that involve touch could be a trigger, but everyone is different. Thus, it’s important to experiment and see what works best for you. Bring your attention to the 5 senses and brainstorm what do you find particularly relaxing? Aromas (essential oils / room spray); visualizations (create a happy place you can visit during your time of need); music or recordings (bring music you’ve heard a lot and love as well as meditation music that would be good background music for your guided relaxation recordings); contact comfort (light touch massage, hot or cold objects / props to regulate body temperature); and finally what drink or snack can you consume slowly and mindfully? In all these instances becoming completely present (in the now), will allow you to slip into this deeper state of relaxation without much effort or prep work, and act as a relaxation trigger or shortcut. They will become more effective as you practice them, and help you zone in (or out) on cue during labor.

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